{"id":2635,"date":"2021-03-06T06:42:02","date_gmt":"2021-03-06T06:42:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/?p=2635"},"modified":"2021-03-06T06:42:02","modified_gmt":"2021-03-06T06:42:02","slug":"rights-of-the-wife-over-the-husband","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/2021\/03\/06\/rights-of-the-wife-over-the-husband\/","title":{"rendered":"Rights of the wife over the husband"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Marriage is a sacred and divine blessing that we have in\nthis world. It is something which connects two souls in a union designed to\nsupport one another in their worship of Allah SWT. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage should be considered a life-long commitment and\ndivorce being the absolute final resort in a marriage that has attempted all\nother possibilities to resolve the difficulties it is facing. This is even more\nso when there are children involved as the impact a broken marriage has on children\nis great. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Prophet SAWS put great emphasis on married life and on\nthe importance of treatment between husband and wife. The imam mentioned the\nayats in the Quran relating to today\u2019s reminder. Firstly, the 21st<\/sup>\nayat of Sura Ar-Rum which is translated to say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And one of His signs is that He\ncreated mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He\nput between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a\npeople who reflect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And ayat 19 of Sura Nisa is translated to say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O Believers! It is not lawful for\nyou to become heirs to women against their will. It is not lawful that you\nshould put constraint upon them that you may take away anything of what you\nhave given them; (you may not put constraint upon them) unless they are guilty\nof brazenly immoral conduct. Live with your wives in a good manner. If you\ndislike them in any manner, it may be that you dislike something in which Allah\nhas placed much good for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dear brothers, we can see the importance of this\nrelationship and our role in this relationship. Alongside these Quranic\nreferences, the imam mentioned a hadith of the Prophet SAWS in which he\neducated us by saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“The most\nperfect man in his faith among the believers is the one whose behaviour is most\nexcellent; and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And so, dear brothers this reminder today concludes with 3 tips\nthat we can all apply today to be better husbands to our wives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Be a friend first in your marriage. This means\nto show her tenderness, your vulnerabilities, to respect her and to empathise\nwith her. This requires showing emotion to her dear brothers, we are not dictators\nin the marriage but instead leaders that are meant to inspire our wives to be the\nbest that they can be. <\/li>
  2. Have taqwa and ihsan. This means to know that\nyou are responsible for your end of the marriage, regardless of how your spouse\ntreats you. If something angers or upsets you, turn to Allah SWT in prayer instead\nof retaliating with your wife. Learn to fulfil your wives rights before demanding\nyour own. Learn to put her fard before your nafl acts. For example, helping her\nnext month during Ramadan if you see she is struggling, instead of leaving her\nto do it all and coming to pray Taraweeh prayers. This is also part of the\ncompassion we need to show our wives. <\/li>
  3. Learn practical tips on keeping the marriage\nhealthy. From conflict resolution tactics to small gifts without reason, the\nmarriage can be treated like a living thing that needs feeding, nurturing and\ntaking care of. Within this, intimacy is important for both husband and wife so\nwe need to be mindful that regardless of how busy our lives are, we do not\ndeprive one another of this part of our responsibility in marriage too. Any brothers\nneeding information on this, I can offer further support and advice. <\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Dear brothers, to be a good husband isn\u2019t a sign of weakness.\nUnfortunately we are often told that we must be manly in front of our wives. Let\nus not fall into the trap of mistaking this for chauvinism. We have, in the Prophet\nSAWS, the best role model to follow. He was the best husband and so we need to\nmodel that behaviour in our relationship with our spouses.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Marriage is a sacred and divine blessing that we have in this world. It is something which connects two souls in a union designed to support one another in their worship of Allah SWT. Marriage should be considered a life-long commitment and divorce being the absolute final resort in a marriage that has attempted all […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_regular_price":[],"currency_symbol":[],"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2635","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sermon"],"blocksy_meta":[],"post_slider_layout_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":"","post_slider_layout_landscape_large":"","post_slider_layout_portrait_large":"","post_slider_layout_square_large":"","post_slider_layout_landscape":"","post_slider_layout_portrait":"","post_slider_layout_square":"","full":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2635","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2635"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2635\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2635"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2635"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2635"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}