{"id":2506,"date":"2020-02-21T23:50:05","date_gmt":"2020-02-21T23:50:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/?p=2506"},"modified":"2020-02-21T23:50:05","modified_gmt":"2020-02-21T23:50:05","slug":"rights-of-children-on-their-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/2020\/02\/21\/rights-of-children-on-their-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"Rights of Children on their Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Allah SWT has given children rights over their parents just\nas the parents have rights over their children.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the past reminders have been on the rights of parents but\nwith a bigger than average attendance of the youth today, it\u2019s worth reminding\nthe parents that children also have a right in Islam that the parents must\nuphold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The first and foremost thing we ought to remind ourselves is\nthat children are gifts from Allah SWT. Even with modern science where it is at\ntoday, nothing can compare to the miracle of childbirth and Allah SWT reminds\nus of this in the 72<sup>nd<\/sup> ayat of Sura An-Nahl which is translated to\nsay:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And Allah has made for you from\nyourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren\nand has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they\nbelieve and in the favor of Allah they disbelieve?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We are being reminded by Allah SWT that nothing is without\nHis permission. This is evident in those who struggle to conceive. The imam\nalso referenced the 49<sup>th<\/sup> ayat of Sura Ash-Shura which is translated\nto say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To Allah belongs the dominion of\nthe heavens and the earth; He creates what he wills. He gives to whom He wills\nfemale [children], and He gives to whom He wills males.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dear brothers and sisters, if we know that our children are gifts\nfrom Allah SWT then surely we ought to ensure that we take care of that gift. We\ngive one another presents all the time and if we were to disregard that\npresent, especially in front of the person who gave it to us, wouldn\u2019t that be\nsomething to be embarrassed of?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so, with our children, we must be mindful and adhere to\ntheir rights so that we are grateful for the gifts that they are to us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And so this reminder has 10 rights that children have from\ntheir parents or guardians which will be covered today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>To be good and decent yourself. Children do not\nlisten, they follow. This is shown in countless studies and so if we want our\nchildren to be a certain way then the best way to achieve this is to be that\nperson ourselves. For example, we cannot expect them to love Salah if we are\nnot praying ourselves.<\/li><li>To name them well. The name we give our children\nis important. Choose Islamic names as the meaning of the name has an effect on\nthe child.<\/li><li>To give them good upbringing. We all want the\nbest for our children but with this point we need to understand that a good\nupbringing isn\u2019t about money or stuff. Good upbringing is about dedicating time\nand effort in your children such as family games and trips.<\/li><li>To encourage learning and education. Dear brothers\nand sisters, our ummah is famous for this aspect of our deen. Let us continue\nthat tradition and make learning not just for the school and madrassah but part\nof our home environment. Dedicate time daily to reading or learning something.<\/li><li>To be good to them when young, help them when\nmature. There is a hadith in relation to this point which is translated to say:\n<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cThe child is the master for seven years; and a slave for\nseven years and a vizier for seven years; so if he grows into a good character\nwithin 21 years, well and good; otherwise leave him alone because you have\ndischarged your responsibility before Allah.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The meaning of this from scholars is that for the first\nseven, we play with them, the next seven we train and teach the &nbsp;child and beyond 14, we give them the guidance\nto make the right choices themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dear brothers and sisters, we must give the children their\ndue. Don\u2019t be overstrict with them or spoil them but we mindful of what level\nthey are at and be with them accordingly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>To be fair to all children equally. This is\nimportant in larger families as it is easy to compare children with one\nanother. Dear brothers and sisters, we are not raising clones. Each child is\ndifferent and with different strengths and weaknesses. It is our responsibility\nto recognize that and treat each child according to their individual traits. <\/li><li>To help them make the right decisions in life, including\nmarriage. This comes back to the earlier point of being advisors to our\nchildren after the age of fourteen. Even after society deems them adults, we\nneed to remember that responsibility lies with us to advise them and be there\nfor them. The first step to that is to be able to listen to them, empathise\nwith them and refrain from judging them because that is not our place to do, we\nrisk alienating them if we talk down to them. The key here is to remind yourself\nthat you were once in that position and so approach them as friends when they\nare older in life.<\/li><li>To help them get married. From financial help to\nadvise on picking the right spouse, we need to ensure that they are married as\nsoon as they are able to in order to prevent them from deviating from the right\npath. Society has plenty of alternatives to marriage which will tempt and so we\nneed to be mindful of that and work with our children to get them married, despite\nthe fear we all feel as parents with the idea of our children leaving us after\nmarriage.<\/li><li>To spend on them if they are poor. Children\nbring their own rizq with them and we need to be mindful that we do not forgo\ntheir rights in terms of the financial support they need \u2013 whether it is\neducation, clothing or something else that contributes to their growth into the\nnext generation of our Ummah.<\/li><li>And finally, to do duaa for them. Dear brothers\nand sisters, this point is obvious but worth mentioning anyway that the dua of\nthe parents, especially the mother is one of the most powerful forces in this\nworld. Do not short-change your children and forgo their right on you praying for\nthem. Their parents dua has the potential to impact their every facet of their\nlives for the better.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Dear brothers and sisters, our children may stretch our patience\nat times but we are blessed to have each and every one of them. Let us take\ntoday\u2019s khutba as a reminder that we will be held accountable for the way in\nwhich we raise them. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Allah SWT has given children rights over their parents just as the parents have rights over their children.&nbsp; In the past reminders have been on the rights of parents but with a bigger than average attendance of the youth today, it\u2019s worth reminding the parents that children also have a right in Islam that the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_regular_price":[],"currency_symbol":[],"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[357,197,195],"class_list":["post-2506","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sermon","tag-childrens","tag-parents","tag-rights"],"blocksy_meta":[],"post_slider_layout_featured_media_urls":{"thumbnail":"","post_slider_layout_landscape_large":"","post_slider_layout_portrait_large":"","post_slider_layout_square_large":"","post_slider_layout_landscape":"","post_slider_layout_portrait":"","post_slider_layout_square":"","full":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2506","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2506"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2506\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2506"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2506"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/salahadeenmosque.org.uk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2506"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}